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How To Focus On The Positive Qualities Of Your Relationship |
by:
Sonia Devine |
Copyright twozerozerofive Sonia Devine
The quality of your life hasstrong connection with how healthy your relationship with other people is. Do you struggle to make other people see things your way? Well stop trying, because you can’t manipulate others. Why? Well, just like you, they are operating from their own map ofworld. What you CAN do is develophabit of paying attention topositive aspects of your relationship.
If you are distressed by your relationships, then you need to changeway in which you react tobehaviour of others. If you holdbelief that you will only be happy whenother person changes, it’s time to get real, because:
*** The Buck Stops With You. ***
Think about someone in your life; Are you paying attention toqualities you think that person is lacking? For example, maybe you think: “If only he was tidier, more attentive to me, more loving, etc…”? Whatever you put your attention on expands. If you only noticethings that annoy you about others, or if you focus on what you think they are not doing right, then you will only experience more ofbehaviour that you are trying to avoid!
Try this exercise:
Think about this specific person, and write downqualities you admire in them. Taketime to remember what drew you to them infirst place. Maybe they are great at making you laugh…they could begood listener, or havetalent for organising things and events. Whatever you like about this person, write it ontolist! And then look at this list every day.
By doing this, you shift your subconscious attention ontopositive aspects ofrelationship and you will start to experience even more of these qualities that you like! Your relationship will improve andother person will start to become more loving, open and receptive towards you as well.
What About Those Things You Don't Like?
Okay, then. What really annoys you about others? Do you get upset by arrogant people? Or maybe people who cannot be assertive really make your blood boil. Whatever it is that bothers you, you must understand this:
We criticize in othersvery qualities that we dislike most about ourselves
We are all connected toUniversal consciousness. When you look at another person, you are also looking atversion of yourself. Learn to see yourself inreflection of others, and you will become more tolerant of what you see as their negative qualities. And remember, other people, are alwaysmirror to you.
If you wantgreat relationship, you need to pay attention toway you react to people. And most importantly, treat others as you would like to be treated. You haveability to createhappy, fulfilling relationship, and if you learn to see yourself in others, you will find yourself becoming more and more open to experiencinggood qualities those people.
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Sonia Devine isqualified professional hypnotherapist and success coach withcaring and committed approach to healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find more of her information on ego, self image, love, relationships, phobias and much more on her website
http://www.manifest-your-success.com
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