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Living in Fear! – By Joseph Ghabi |
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Joseph Ghabi |
As we are aware, our relationships are that bigger part of our life, and our own personal growth. Our growth starts basically from our relationships. Remember when we were young looking up to our parents, or to our older brothers or sisters, sometimes envying them for being older, or just trying to understand them. Butbest of all was trying to build up our relationship with them.
From that point on our own personal growth began. This initial growth, helped to direct us towards different directions in life, according toway we did handle those early growth experiences.
I have spoken before about how our ego and pride plays part in our relationships. This time, we will look at another area that can really hit us hard when we are inrelationship, and that is fear and selflessness.
What is fear? Fear can be defined in many different ways, but we will look at fear inrelationship as our concern today.
Fear, is defined by two different aspects of our relationships. As I see it today, it isfear of commitment andfear ofother person inrelationship. Fear of commitment inrelationship can happen tobest of us when we have had one, or several, tough relationships or tough times growing up in this lifetime. That can help to keep that fear alive.
Why do we keep carrying around that fear? Very simple - many times we don’t know any better, and other times we are just afraid to be vulnerable, or to allow ourselves to open up. That fear can only bring unhappiness inend.
Fear ofother person inrelationship is just as tough as that first fear but we need, and it is very important, to be honest with ourselves and to askquestion “Why are we afraid of our partner?” Why have we allowed ourselves to be stuck in that relationship for so long? What is it that created this fear in us? Why have we allowed it to go that far infirst place? Asking that, and many other good questions that need to be addressed until we click in withanswer. Do not disqualify any answer because that is what most of us do infirst place. Our intuition seems to belast thing we trust. Just learn to trust that inner voice of yours. Fear can only be resolved by building up our own self-confidence. Your partner, in this case, probably knows that you fear him or her and may take advantage of this!
From my angle, I see again that fear lies inway that we grew up and what we really need to look at is our own level of self-confidence. Sometimes we have been abused aschild and our self-esteem is tarnished. I wrote on these subjects before, but what we need to tackle now is on how we have chosen to build up our self-confidence and self-esteem. This isvery important start.
To be able to accomplish this you need to go back to whatever age you were when that problem started to occur. Look at it as if you were seeing yourself, and your life, asmovie in front of you. Write down everything you see, and start to listen toway you talk today. Is therecommon pattern? You should see something reoccurring over time and even in how you experience your relationships today. You will probably see that those patterns are still there, as if it werefirst time it happened some ten, fifteen or twenty years ago. It is great if you can identify these patterns in your life that keep repeating, inprogressive way, time after time, or from one relationship to another. Then you will know from where you will need to begin, and fix what you have identified as needing fixing. Many times we say “but I can’t see it yet”. After time has passed, read all ofwriting that you did earlier aschild growing up. Reading it later may help you to seepatterns, I guarantee that! BUT, there is one thing that you might or might not see throughoutyears, and that isnegative attitude you may have about yourself, and your life, and that has to change too. If you master your attitude, then you are almost guaranteed that over eighty percent of your problem is solved. Think about it formoment please…
I learned from my own healing and working with my guides, and healing doctors, that there is no cure until it is handled atroot ofproblem. Not just bysymptoms of today’s problems, or else nothing (orvery little amount) will change. New problems will surface later on becauseunderstanding ofearly stage ofproblem hasn’t been identified and this may prevent us from being provided withanswer tohappier existence. It really does not matter why things happened infirst place, as long as we learn to accept our unfortunate situation. Forgive, bless it, and let it go. It won’t takelifetime for things to change in your life from that point on. That’s from my own personal experiences.
Sometimes, this process is very hard and painful to go through. Your old life experiences, and your energy level, might go tobottom, but not as long as you know why you are doing it infirst place. It’s notlong process but two important factors are required YOU being involved infirst place. It is your life after all, and your own personal responsibility. Without those two ingredients we will keep running incircle.
As you see when you properly handlefirst stage ofproblem, all ofsymptoms or hurdles will fall and disappear instantly without even realizing it, because it is no longer important to your mind, heart and soul. It has been solved!
After all,worse thing any Soul has to endure is living in fear, all of their life, especially while next to their partner, andpeople who they love.
Enjoy your relationships withpeople you love, and cherish it for all that it’s worth, because life is worth living and it should be in harmony.
Copyright © Joseph Ghabi
http://www.freespiritcentre.info
AboutAuthor:
Joseph Ghabi isauthor, lecturer, and healer. Joseph provides Intuitive Numerology Consultation, Healing Childhood Experiences Consultation and PhD Candidate living in Montreal Canada.
Atage of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium. Joseph started‘Free Spirit Centre’ website at http://www.freespiritcentre.info. A community centre devoted to personal growth, self help, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues. You can find over sixfivezero articles onsite.
Joseph task is in bringing Souls back to realization of their own personal power and into alignment with their own soul purpose and path of evolution.
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AboutAuthor:
Joseph Ghabi isauthor, lecturer, and healer. Joseph provides Intuitive Numerology Consultation, Healing Childhood Experiences Consultation and PhD Candidate living in Montreal Canada.
Atage of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium. Joseph started‘Free Spirit Centre’ website at http://www.freespiritcentre.info . A community centre devoted to personal growth, self help, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues. You can find over eightzerozero articles onsite.
Joseph task is in bringing Souls back to realization of their own personal power and into alignment with their own soul purpose and path of evolution.
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